There Is A Lot To Talk About!

In one of my writings, I spoke about being the silent observer. This means silently listening as the world rambles on about everything. Certainly, I have my opinions and will carefully voice them in the right forum. However, holding my tongue has some advantages and there are some significant things that I have taken note of and will express in the article. Before I begin this journey, I need to say that people are adapted to say anything whether it be good or bad, well thought out or something straight out of the peanut gallery dictionary. I watch as people offer monuments of nothing, and I have heard some highly articulated, well thought out conversations.  People can be animated, serious, irritated, sad. Vicious, overbearing, cynical, rude, obnoxious, or simply a straight-faced liar. They are misinformed, overinformed, or not informed at all. They can also be challenging, calculating, and manipulative. On the other hand, they can be sincere, dedicated, devoted, and logical. After carefully watching and listening I conclude that there is a lot to talk about.

The challenge for me is how to succinctly convey my premise without offending. One of my favorite quotes is, “The truth hurts the guilty.” Most people know that they fit in one of the above-mentioned categories. There are many conversations going on right now, as many are being influenced, swayed, and educated. I sit and watch, I listen to arguments from different sides of the political arena. I am amazed at the veracious pontification being expressed, often resulting in violent confrontations. All based on one’s point of view. Which brings me to my next point.

Points of view have specific qualities designed to influence the listener. It is a mechanism that we use to express what we think or feel about a given topic. There is only one problem with this, and that is your point of view may not be my point of view. So, now we have created controversy. Mind you, controversy is not a bad thing if we can respect the fact that everyone is entitled to his or her opinions (I disagree, will explain later). When I think of the phrase “point of view” I picture someone who has done their homework and has reached a point that can intelligently be discussed. Not someone who is speaking out of their emotions or regurgitating something someone else has said. It must be thought out to some degree. This makes for intelligent discourse. The ability to have a constructive, well thought out conversation, understanding that the opposite party has done the same. 

There are quite a few components that go into the millions of conversations happening around the world. One component that fuel conversation is our emotions. Emotions is the root cause of every conversation gone awry. The conscious mental reaction subjectively experienced as a strong feeling toward a specific subject or object. When we feel strongly about something, and it is challenged by others our emotions generally take over and it quickly becomes EQ over IQ. Allow me to explain.  E.Q. which is “Emotional Quotient” is a measure used to determine a person’s personal skills and the power to evaluate, control and express emotions. Your EQ is the level of your ability to understand yourself as well as other people, what motivates them and how to work cooperatively with them. I have discovered that I can think as well as express myself more effectively when my emotions are under control. 

Many of the emotions mentioned in paragraph one is created out of preconceived expectations and faulty information. We are naturally driven and will do whatever it takes to be accepted. Being emotionally driven gives a false sense that I have been heard and a dedicated part of the conversation. It really does not matter how logical or relevant my statement is If I can get my two cents into the conversation. To be emotionally driven means that your impulsive brain is always overriding your rational one and shutting it down. I find that there are many people who fit this and their conversations will always reflect emotions.

I.Q. is used to determine academic abilities. It covers logical reasoning, word comprehension and math skills. There are significant advantages to developing your I.Q. As we develop our I.Q., we are better able to control our emotions. With our emotions under control our logic and reasoning skills are heightened, thus we can think more efficiently and make better decisions. Our conversations become more rational and reasonable, making way for intelligent discourse.

Before I end this article, I would like to address my earlier statement on which I disagreed that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. “I am entitled to my own opinion” when used in an argument is also a “logical fallacy, as it fails to establish whether or not one’s opinion is true or false. Certainly, we can grant everyone freedom to their opinion, however, we must question if it is a worthwhile opinion. Depending on the conversation and the subject matter I believe that one’s opinion can either be effectively interjected or omitted from the conversation.

There is a lot to talk about, and I am just scratching the surface. In my observation (myself included) we can greatly benefit by taking the time to exercise I.Q over E.Q... We can effectively move the spectrum of understanding to a higher level of awareness if we simply slow down and get our emotions under control. Deliberately paying attention to our interactions with each other, attempting to comprehend what is being said and why allows for better understanding and more comprehensive dialogue.

THERE IS A LOT TO TALK ABOUT!!!!!